know where your relationship stands.
at the end of chapter three, liz admits that she hates talking about her feelings. scared to talk about the status of your relationship? then your left wondering, hoping, getting excited and then disappointed. i know this one all too well. 'i don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so i appear uninvolved. i want to be involved' [page 43].
'if a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you' [page 47]. in other words, if he was into you, he would want to have sex with you. if a man dumped a woman because she wouldn't have sex with him, we would call him an ass. but can a woman dump a man because he won't have sex with her? i've actually thought about this. the authors say yes, do what needs to be done to make yourself happy. i guess you should, even if that makes you an ass. actually, they say to buy a puppy for cuddling and find that special someone out there who 'does want to have sex with you' [page 57]. read this for yourself.